Personality Disorders

Dealing With Personality Disorders

Does everyone around you keep telling you that you need to change your behaviour?

Do you feel like no one understands you, or they must be the problem?

Do you struggle to maintain relationships?

Do you shift and change who you are depending on your situation? 

Do you struggle with feedback or criticism?

Do you feel empty and void inside and engage in behaviours to help numb these feeling?

Does it seem like everything is fine unless you are in a close relationship and then you act completely different?

Living like this can make it hard to get along with other people. You may have an initial strong connection or make a great impression, but this becomes strained over time due to the demands of maintaining a relationship.

What Are Personality Disorders?

In the past, a personality disorder was viewed as a response or coping strategy for negative early childhood experiences.

More recently, personality disorders are understood as a lack of development in areas of the brain. This means that common types of therapy are less likely to help because therapy focuses on building skills. In contrast, someone with personality disorder type behaviours requires support to help build and grow parts of the brain. It’s like growing up. We all have parts of us that need growing up.

Personality disorder is a complex type of mental disorder that is not so easy to evaluate. People with this condition have challenging living patterns which influences their thoughts, behaviours and functioning as members of society. If you have this condition or know anyone who does, you will notice that there is a struggle relating to people or perceiving their situation.

There is struggle in relationships, at school, work and even in social environments and there is a tendency to blame others as it is unbearable to think the problem is with yourself.

If you struggle with personality disorder characteristics, you may think that your behavior is natural and there is nothing wrong with you and may act confused and agitated because you feel that everyone around is different, does not understand you, and they act like you are out of place. Often, this can mask as depression, anxiety, OCD, or other coping behaviours.

Shame is a common feeling at a deep core level because the mind senses the need for growth and feels held back or flawed.

Types of Personality Disorder

Common types of personality disorders are:

This condition can begin to manifest quite young, or through the teenage years, and worsens as the person grows older. For others, the symptoms may lessen as they grow older.

 Are the traits described above similar to your or do you know anyone like that? Many people face similar conditions. Change is possible when there is a willingness.

You are not alone.

Therapists Specializing in Personality Disorders

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Brandys Evans, MA, RCC

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Malleka Chouta, MA, MPHIL, RCC

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Sara Nahri, MA, RCC

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We can help you using tested and trusted therapeutic procedures. To learn more, book a free phone consultation with us today.

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Frequently Asked Questions

The number of sessions required for counselling/therapy differs for each individual/situation depending on the desired outcome. Research suggests that some therapies focus on brief interventions for immediate relief, while others can take 8+ sessions to make lasting changes to life-long patterns.

In your first session, you and your therapist will discuss your wants and needs and determine the best plan for you. Sessions can be scheduled weekly, bi-weekly, monthly, or as-needed according to your individual goals.

Yes. We are here to serve the needs of children and youth. This includes neurodiversity, behavioural, anxiety, attention, learning, social, and emotional problems. We also provide family support through parent coaching, counselling, and reunification.

Our clinic is located at 400 – 145 Chadwick Court, North Vancouver, V7M 3K1

We are open between 8:00 am to 9:00 PM, 7 days a week.

There is no parkade or parking lot for 145 Chadwick Court as it sits over top of the water at the seabus terminal. Parking for the building is in the ICBC parking lot sitting just North of the Seabus Terminal. There are a number of ways to get to the front door on the main level just east of the seabus terminal, or a 3rd floor entrance above the escalators at the seabus terminal and across from the elevators at the ICBC parkade.


We specialize in a variety of neurodiversity, behavioural, anxiety, attention, learning, social, and emotional problems. We also provide family support through parent coaching, counselling, and reunification.